I’m graduating soon, and I know I should be happy… okay I’m actually so happy…but at the same time, I feel overwhelmed, confused, and a little bit scared.
OMGG Faridah!! First of all cogratss!! You’re such a queen for doing a nursing degree! I can believe you’ve been balancing writing with that.
I graduated last year and totally relate to the lonely scares, I was soo scared too especially since I ended up taking a gap year. But I ended up strengthening my relationship with Allah and that really helped me cope with the transition, Alhamdulillah. Even though I’m pretty alone and never really leave the house, I how smh don’t feel that lonely.
I do get bored though and I’m having a hard time getting a job. Starting Substack kept me sane, I’m trying to look for some opportunities to get of the house Inshaallah. So lowkey having work is not that bad 😭 I know it feel daunting now cause you’re burnt out, but once you recover from burn out in a few months Inshallah you’ll like work. At least you’ll be around people and have something meaningful to do.
But honestly, I feel like the way to deal with this uncertainty is through Allah. (Also listening to podcasts makes me feel like I have friends 👀
I love this perspective. This might actually be the solution I’ve been needing. Beyond just feeling burnt out, I’ve also been going through a lot spiritually, so having something meaningful to focus on during this time feels like such a blessing.
Of course, I’ll still make the effort to build new connections and friendships, but even if I don’t land an internship as quickly as I’d like, at least I’ll have something purposeful to pour myself into, especially in strengthening my relationship with Allah.
Wishing you all the best in your job search! Honestly, that’s the part of graduation I’m dreading the most too 😩
I totally understand what you're going through as I am a homebody myself.
The trick with having a social life is in your head. You're comfortable at home and you don't want to leave that cocoon.
What I did this year was that I would say yes. Always say yes despite how much I want to cancel. Force myself to get ready, go out. I always have fun, the leaving the house is the worst part.
As for the friends one. Ise how best you communicate to talk to them. If its by sending memes or snaps or random calls to check in. Find what works best for you and use it to communicate that you care.
Obviously I'm not perfect but these are the few steps I have taken that might work
That’s actually such a good idea. But let’s be honest, I’ll probably have to be the one initiating the hangouts because I don’t think I’m getting invited to anything anymore 😭😭. Deep down, I know the solution is to push myself and be more intentional about making friends and building a social life… but that’s exactly what I’m scared of. I don’t think I have the mental strength right now.
Luckily, my current friends are in the same boat, so we all agreed to start giving weekly updates about our crazy ward experiences, I think that’ll help us stay connected.
Still, all of this is giving me a bit of anxiety. But hopefully, I’ll be able to push through it.
I think I'm in the same ship as you
Join the party 😭
OMGG Faridah!! First of all cogratss!! You’re such a queen for doing a nursing degree! I can believe you’ve been balancing writing with that.
I graduated last year and totally relate to the lonely scares, I was soo scared too especially since I ended up taking a gap year. But I ended up strengthening my relationship with Allah and that really helped me cope with the transition, Alhamdulillah. Even though I’m pretty alone and never really leave the house, I how smh don’t feel that lonely.
I do get bored though and I’m having a hard time getting a job. Starting Substack kept me sane, I’m trying to look for some opportunities to get of the house Inshaallah. So lowkey having work is not that bad 😭 I know it feel daunting now cause you’re burnt out, but once you recover from burn out in a few months Inshallah you’ll like work. At least you’ll be around people and have something meaningful to do.
But honestly, I feel like the way to deal with this uncertainty is through Allah. (Also listening to podcasts makes me feel like I have friends 👀
I love this perspective. This might actually be the solution I’ve been needing. Beyond just feeling burnt out, I’ve also been going through a lot spiritually, so having something meaningful to focus on during this time feels like such a blessing.
Of course, I’ll still make the effort to build new connections and friendships, but even if I don’t land an internship as quickly as I’d like, at least I’ll have something purposeful to pour myself into, especially in strengthening my relationship with Allah.
Wishing you all the best in your job search! Honestly, that’s the part of graduation I’m dreading the most too 😩
Ya it’s definitely a test of faith but that’s ok, Allah wouldn’t put us through a situation if we couldn’t handle it.
Yh you are right! Thank you so much ☺️❤️
I totally understand what you're going through as I am a homebody myself.
The trick with having a social life is in your head. You're comfortable at home and you don't want to leave that cocoon.
What I did this year was that I would say yes. Always say yes despite how much I want to cancel. Force myself to get ready, go out. I always have fun, the leaving the house is the worst part.
As for the friends one. Ise how best you communicate to talk to them. If its by sending memes or snaps or random calls to check in. Find what works best for you and use it to communicate that you care.
Obviously I'm not perfect but these are the few steps I have taken that might work
That’s actually such a good idea. But let’s be honest, I’ll probably have to be the one initiating the hangouts because I don’t think I’m getting invited to anything anymore 😭😭. Deep down, I know the solution is to push myself and be more intentional about making friends and building a social life… but that’s exactly what I’m scared of. I don’t think I have the mental strength right now.
Luckily, my current friends are in the same boat, so we all agreed to start giving weekly updates about our crazy ward experiences, I think that’ll help us stay connected.
Still, all of this is giving me a bit of anxiety. But hopefully, I’ll be able to push through it.
You seem like you're already figuring out a system that works for you